A lot of them are particularly critical of your mindset and the paradigms you see the world through simply BECAUSE they read; they have read literature which explains exactly this type of male gaze, where the male attempts to give himself a gold star and a special snowflake status just because he isn’t completely objectifying women.
Date a girl that reads? How about date a girl who actually calls you out on your very very typical bullshit. I see the merit in the idea, the whole premise of loving her mind more than her body, except realistically none of these guys are going to be drooling over a girl who reads that isn’t conventionally attractive. What they really want to say is that they’d like to date a girl who reads who looks likeJennifer Lawrence or Emma Stone or Alison Brie or other indie white boy favorites such as Zooey Deschanel or Ellen Page.
❝ But I guess ultimately what scares me about marriage is where do you find this person? You know a lot of times, most successful relationships, people meet through work, school, mutual friends. But what’s most interesting to me is when people just meet in life, just randomly. You know, I have a friend, he got married, I asked him like “Hey, uh, where’d you meet your wife?” He was like “I was leaving Bed, Bath & Beyond. I was looking for my car - I drive a gray Prius. I saw a different gray Prius, I thought it was mine, I walked up to it, I realized I had the wrong car, but I bumped into Carol, we started talking, that was that”. That’s unbelievable. Think about all the random factors that had to come together to make this one moment possible - this one moment that changed these two people’s entire lives: First off, this guy has to live in this particular town. Then he has to get a gray Prius. Then he has to need to go to Bed, Bath & Beyond. Then he has to go to that particular Bed, Bath & Beyond. Then there has to be another guy who also lives in town, also drives a gray Prius, also needs to go to Bed, Bath & Beyond, also goes to that particular Bed, Bath & Beyond at around the same time. Then they have to both park somewhat near each other, my friend has to leave before the other guy leaves, see the wrong Prius, think it’s his, walk up to it. Then the woman, Carol, needs to be near the wrong gray Prius for a million other random reasons. They bump into each other, they start talking, their entire lives are changed. That’s the most amazing and terrifying thing about life. It is, cause the amazing thing is that at any moment, any one of us can have that moment that totally changes our lives. You could be leaving the show tonight, bump into someone… it could change your life. You don’t know, that could happen. The terrifying thing is… what if we’re all supposed to be at Bed Bath & Beyond right now? ❞
— Aziz Ansari, Buried Alive (via larmoyante)
❝ You know, one of the tragedies of real life is that there is no background music. ❞
— Annie Proulx (via easymomentsandobsession)
I told you the one thing I know how to say, through the bright ringing drone of eight-bit choirs: when you came in, I could breathe again.
❝ The darkest places in hell are reserved for those who maintain their neutrality in times of moral crisis. ❞
— Dante Alighieri, Inferno (via dotonbori)